Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts

Thursday, August 14, 2014

Why I Care about #Ferguson and #MikeBrown


People are entitled to their feelings.  Everyone is allowed to have an emotion in response to an event; no one else can tell that person their feelings are wrong or invalid.  Sure, the way a person can think and act about something can be adjusted, but a person's feelings can never be wrong.  They just "are".  It's like saying that some heartbeats are more wrong than others; that just doesn't make sense.  Feelings/emotions run deep through the human race.  They run even deeper through closely-knit communities.  This has become evident whenever tragedies happen, such as the recent events in Ferguson, MO.

If you don't know what's happening in the town of Ferguson, or what happened to a boy named Mike Brown, I won't explain it much here.  You can easily do a web search about it, but essentially the issue is about race, discrimination, and police brutality.  Obviously, these are intense issues, and now people are very angry about it.  Mike Brown was a Black, American, teenager who was unarmed when he was gunned down by an officer.  I wasn't there, and there is no way I could have been or will ever be inside the mind of this particular officer's head when he decided to pull the trigger on this boy, so I can't know his exact rationale for shooting him.  The Black (and supporting) community has their views on what happened here, and the reason Brown died, according to them, is evident: Racism.  Discrimination.  Irrational fear of minorities.  Misinterpreted threats.

The last four points I listed are all problems people are seeing when it comes to the police force in the United States.  These kind of things keep happening:  Black men and women are being unfairly judged when it comes to the system of law and order, and for what?  It's because of the color of their skin.  The color of our skin.  I am a Black female, and while I have personally never felt the sting of racial profiling or blatant racism towards me, I keep seeing it happen around me to a race I am a part of.  It's honestly disheartening and grossly unsettling going through life knowing that the country you live in had a history of brutal enslavement of your people; that ONLY 50 years ago it wasn't uncommon for my mother to walk through her hometown in Arkansas and face possible assault or death just because someone hated her skin color; that a random stranger may or may not HATE you just because you look different.  Some people like to believe in the power of colorblindness and that racism is some kind of ancient practice that is dying out.  While, I appreciate that this tries to aim at a positive view, we still cannot ignore the power of racism today.  It's alive and real, and it's becoming more and more evident in our world.

We are angry because this keeps happening.  Why do innocent Black people keep becoming victims of misguided violence?  Why do we keep assuming that black = dangerous?  What's the need to shoot first?  Why does the media continue to portray us as "scary, thuggish, and ignorant" even though everyone working in a media outlet KNOWS EXACTLY what they are doing?  TEXTBOOKS have been written on the impact the media has on society and culture, so why do they keep painting us as Neanderthals???

While at work, I heard my coworkers discussing the protests going on in Ferguson.  Their focus was narrow; they talked about how the protesters just want the name of the officer who shot Brown to be released.  They likened the protesters and rioters to a "lynch mob".  This is a linear point of view which made me angry that they didn't even consider seeing it from a different point of view.  The way I see it, these protesters aren't just looking for a name or somebody to blame.  Mike Brown is dead, and there is nothing we can do to bring him back.  Yes, the people do want justice, but even more so, they want a permanent resolution.  All those problems with society, the police force, and the justice system that I listed earlier?  Yeah. They want those to be fixed.  One way we can fix this is by raising awareness and attempting to open people's minds in public and through social media.  Taking action.  This is exactly what they are doing by protesting.  They are reacting and taking a stand for something they believe in.  Now, the violent rioters and looters have a separate and selfish agenda, but as for the protesters whose hearts and mind are in the right place and all of you posting messages of solidarity, I support you.

Whenever I think about what happened to Mike Brown, I think "that could have been my own brother."  My brother is the same age as Brown was, and coincidentally will also begin college this Fall, just as Brown would have.  So, whenever I think about a young Black man being treated unfairly by police and others, it makes me fear for my little brother.  I also have an older brother; I have similar fears for him.  They can both easily be seen as scary, big, tall, Black males.  In reality, they are the sweetest things you will ever meet.  Stereotypes should never be our primary basis for how we decide to act in life.  I don't care how much you've seen or read about Black men or women.  You know nothing.

So I guess I feel a connection with the community of Ferguson, and the friends and family members of Brown in the sense that we feel pissed off that our community of Black individuals keeps being unfairly judged.  Yes, we are causing a ruckus about it now, but how the hell else are we supposed to get the world to LISTEN?  Heck, most aren't even causing uproars, they're just peacefully protesting.  Yet, Ferguson looks like a war zone...  Like I said before, people are entitled to their feelings.  Feelings are never wrong.  You can't tell us that we are wrong for feeling angry about this.  Similarly, I can't tell anyone that they should feel angry, as well.  If they don't, they don't.  Human experience is an individual thing and (unfortunately) we don't have enough power to tap into people's minds, flip a switch, and make them think like we do.  We can only raise our voices loud enough, write enough words, and display enough images in hopes that others will see the way we do.  I care about the problem of injustice in the Black community because this is my community.  Just because I live in Illinois doesn't mean it's not affecting me.  NEVER think that just because you are geographically removed from a situation means its not going to affect you.  It can always connect back to you.  Everything is connected and everything travels and catches fire.  If you don't already, I hope you start caring.


Also, CLICK HERE to sign the petition to help stop police misconduct!

P.S. - If anyone knows the artist who created the picture above, can you let me know?  And I totally give them credit and kudos :P

Thursday, August 7, 2014

Things I Loved Today: 8/7/14


  • A message from a mass email at work
"Does Osbaldo have a hard hat and safety goggles?"
"He has a hard head and safe eyes." 

  • The fact that I actually know a person named Osbaldo.
  • There is a Mermaid School in the Philippines, that actually manages to exist without being creepy!  I kind of wish I could go there (If only I could swim...).
  • Paul McCartney's retro "WTF?" face:
  • We just wanted to make music and hold your hand!

  • Driving to work without coffee and NOT feeling drowsy FOR ONCE!  Hashtag-winning.
  • Discovering that "Thunder Clatter" by Wild Cub is the perfect morning song.
  • Working on breaking my cycle of fear.
  • Eating lunch then reading a book in "my place" in the park.
  • Realizing that the power of prayer really does work.  It's great when I actually recognize the changes I know that I prayed for.
  • Deciding to eat lunch by myself at my favorite Indian restaurant.  (This actually didn't happen today, but it will tomorrow, and I am very excited to eat and read alone..and also very hungry.)


Thursday, April 24, 2014

Things I Loved Today: 4/24/14

Things!  They happened!  Today!

  • For the first time this week, I made it into work today, with two extra minutes to spare.  Hooray for driving 60 MPH!
  • Columbia College is offering another Intro to Anatomy/Kinesiology workshop.  This is something I need so this news is just fantastic!  http://www.colum.edu/Academics/DCAT/anatomykinesiology-workshop.php
  • My tweet was favorited 15 times and re-tweeted 4 times.  The highest for any of my tweets, ever!
  • Receiving texts from loved ones, that contain no actual importance or substance.  People that just contact you because they were thinking of you.  I love that.
  • I just discovered Think Geek.
  • And this practical fashion blog for gamers: http://consoletocloset.com/
  • The lineup for Electric Forest 2014 was updated AGAIN.  I'm not even going to post the link.  Go find it.  Be amazed.
  • This photo of Jared Leto and Zedd...  I just...  I just need this to be my wallpaper.



    Thursday, February 14, 2013

    15 Most Romantic Songs for Anyone

    It's Valentine's Day, lovers!  Well, at least it was like an hour ago...

    Anyway, I don't have a Valentine...

    Let's face it - 90% of the songs we hear today are about love (if not love, then sex).  It can become quite annoying to hear especially if you're listening to a pop radio station.  However, there are some songs out there that I have to admit are well written.  Not only are the lyrics good, but the actual music doesn't make you want to rip your eardrums out (don't think about how that could be physically possible).  Here's a list I tossed together (emphasis on "tossed") featuring some of the best romantic songs to listen to, even if you're not a hopeless romantic.

    My apologies for not including links or embedding YouTube clips.  I am a lazy bastard tonight.


    "Sweater Weather" by The Neighborhood
    This song is fairly new, and that is part of the reason why it is at the top of this list.  Regardless, it is still a very catchy and cool song.  I love the hook and the tempo change near the end.  When I hear this song, I just think about two people who are happy just to stand next to each other with their hands in each others' sweaters...or something like that.
    Favorite lyric: "She know knows what I think about; And what I think about; One love, two mouths; One love, one house; No shirt, no blouse; Just us, you find out; Nothing that I wouldn't wanna tell you about no."

    "I Will Wait" by Mumford and Sons
    This song is pretty popular.  Mumford and Sons album, Babel just won a Grammy, and this song is on that album.  It's not that complicated of a song, it's about waiting for the one you love.
    Favorite lyric: "So I'll be bold as well as strong; And use my head alongside my heart."

    "My Heart Will Go On" and "Because You Loved Me" by Celine Dion
    It's the freaking song from Titanic, one of the most classic love stories of all time!
    Favorite lyric: "Youuuuur heeeeeeerrreeee; There's NOTHING I feeeaaar; And I know that my heart will go ooooooon."

    "My Girl" by The Temptations
    I just finished watching the movie My Girl, and after wiping the tears out of my eyes said to myself, "Yes.  This song is gold."  It's about admiring that special girl who makes you feel great even during the worst times.  It's a really sweet song, and I dare anyone to disapprove of it.
    Favorite lyric: "I guess you say; 'What can make me feel this way?'; My girl (my girl, my girl!)."

    Most songs by The Beatles
    The Beatles are so known for writing love songs that they have an entire Cirque du Soleil show based on their songs and titled, Love.  There are too many songs by them to list, but I will say that some of my absolute favorites are "I Want You (She's So Heavy)", "Something", "Please Please Me", and "Don't Let Me Down".  That last one is a song that could literally make me cry because I think the lyrics are so simple, yet honest.

    "Mario Kart Love Song" by Sam Hart
    This guy on YouTube made a love song based on the concept of Mario Kart...and it's pretty awesome that he did that.  I love him for it.
    Favorite lyric: "Walawalawalawalwalugi...."

    "Ho Hey" by The Lumineers
    This song is also pretty popular, also because of the band's recent Grammy nomination for Best New Artist. It's a simple and short song, but it is one of those honest songs about two people belonging together.  Despite the fact that I consider this a "mainstream hipster" song (I'll explain later, I promise), I do find this song interesting.
    Favorite lyric: "Ho Hey" (obvious enough)

    "Use Somebody" by Kings of Leon
    You probably don't realize it because this song has been used in many sports promos, but this is a love song.
    Okay, it's not really actually a love song, but it could be interpreted that way.  He could be singing about how he could use a great person to improve his life, or how he hopes this great person will notice him.  Hey, it's not much of a stretch!
    Favorite lyric: "'Go and let it out."

    "Starlight" and "Madness" by Muse
    I couldn't just pick one song by Muse, so I'm mentioning them both.  "Starlight" is a very cool song that's simply about loving someone.  "Madness" is also about love, but a crazy type of love in which two individuals appear to go through some crazy sh*t, but all their madness is worth it.  This song reminded me of a current situation with one of my friends and their partner, so I had to add it.
    Favorite "Starlight" lyric: "Our hopes and expectations; Black holes and revelations."
    Favorite "Madness" lyric: "And I have finally realized; I NEED TO LOOOOOOOOVEEEE."
    Absolute love for the vocals in both these songs, also.

    "El Scorcho" by Weezer
    This is one of those funny-cute songs by Weezer, and I wouldn't expect anything less.  It resonates with me because it seems like a song about an awkward crush.  The guy is kind of afraid of talking to this girl, even though he knows she'll probably like him anyway because they are both alike.
    Favorite lyric: "I asked you to go to the Green Day concert; You said you never heard of them; How cool is that?!"

    "Thank You" by Dido
    I like this song because after singing about having a craptastic day, Dido sings about getting a phone call from her lover, and all her problems instantly disappear.  Why can't I find a guy who has that effect on me?!
    Favorite lyric: "Just to be with you is having the best day of my life."

    "Closer" by Tegan and Sara
    This song is also new (I listen to the radio a lot).  Even though Tegan and Sara have been around for a while, they still managed to release a fresh new album, and their sound is fantastic.  It's poppy, but not too sugary or electro-heavy.  It still has that alternative vibe, which I like.  This song is about having a physical attraction toward a person, but recognizing that there's more in the relationship than just the naughty bits.
    Favorite lyric: "I won't treat you like you're oh so typical."

    "Echoes" by Pink Floyd
    If it weren't for my weird/awkward/what-the-hell-was-that relationship with my ex-boyfriend, I would have never started listening to Pink Floyd on my own.  I ended up coming across this song one day, and I found that I liked the sound of it.  However, since it is a 25 minute song, it could only hold my attention for so long.  So I usually only listen to the first 6 minutes...
    Favorite lyric: "Strangers passing in the street by chance two separate glances meet; And I am you and what I see is me."
    This song apparently has the same chord progression as Andrew Llyod Webber's "Phantom of the Opera", so that's a nice plus...I guess.

    "Somewhere Only We Know" by Keane
    This one would also be on the list of songs that make me cry on command.  There are these few piano chords that are in the middle and very end of the song that strike the "eject tears" button on my heart.  It's a well performed and well written song about relying on that special someone and going to a place (either physical or metaphorical) that only you and your significant other understand and know of.
    Favorite lyric: "Oh simple thing where have you gone?; I'm getting old and I need something to rely on."

    "Everlong" by Foo Fighters
    The acoustic version of this song will play during the first dance of my groom and I at our wedding.  This is a non-negotiable order.  I truly love this song and I really don't think I will ever stop loving it.